A Lesson We Needed to Learn
Everyone makes mistakes and when we do, it’s very easy to be overly critical of ourselves, especially as parents. Every decision we make, good or bad, affects someone other than ourselves. But, when it’s your kids being affected by your decisions, the effects can be long-lasting or permanent. Your children are influenced by every single thing that you do. That’s a very scary thought. But, it’s our motivation every day to set examples for our kids to follow as they grow up.
As most of you know, we are a family of pranksters. All you have to do is scroll through our YouTube channel to find an absurd amount of prank videos. But we recently discovered that our light-hearted jokes can sometimes cross the line. Justin and I began to see a trend of YouTube parents pranking their kids with disrespectful behavior towards their spouse. Just to see what the kids would do. This sounded like something fun for us to test Ava and Alexis and we were wrong.
Justin Kind of Lost It.
Justin began by criticizing my “lack of responsibility.” This seemed like it would be enough to get a reaction out of the girls. But that didn’t work. The girls weren’t quite convinced, so, Justin turned to outlandish insults to try and convince them that he was serious. Immediately, Ava and Alexis were unsettled. Ava even asked if it was real. Now let me be absolutely clear here: Justin and I NEVER talk to each other like that. Not in private and not in front of our kids. The girls were so confused and concerned. They even attempted to talk their Dad down by asking how he would feel if I had talked to him like that. (proud Mama moment) See the whole video here!
After I tossed a cup of water on Justin, the girls followed me upstairs. At this point, we felt that it had gone super well. The girls had believed us and we weren’t even considering that this could have negative repercussions. It wasn’t until later, after we had revealed the prank to Alexis and Ava, that Alexis went to her room and hid. She was angry and confused and she didn’t know what to do with it. It was then that we realized that maybe our girls were too old for pranks like this.
Realizing Our Mistake
We had no intention of hurting our children, but we did. This, obviously didn’t sit right with us and we decided to see this as a teachable moment instead of a failure. We initially weren’t even going to tell you about this video being made, but we are a real family with real struggles. If we can’t be transparent with you, then what’s the point of all of this?
Thank You, Next
Our lifestyle is unusual, and the girls had no issues being on camera, but we always want to be sure that we have their permission to post what we do. And we also want to produce the content that they are comfortable with. In this situation, they saw a new side of their Dad and that broke their heart. We don’t want to exploit that and use their pain as clickbait. They may remember this “prank” for the rest of their lives and if we don’t make a conscious effort to make sure that what we are doing isn’t hurting them in any way, then we shouldn’t continue on this journey.